As You Are

For those of you who have been here awhile, you likely know that I am not a fan of New Year’s resolutions. This might come as a surprise coming from someone who is involved in the health & wellness industry where steep profits are made from said resolutions.

Why the despise, you might ask?

There’s a rant I could go on about the rhythm of nature this time of year, but I won’t go there (this time). Instead, I will ask you this question- when was the last time you heard someone share a resolution that was framed in self-love?

For most, if not all, our resolutions are worked around this idea of not-enoughness.

Not skinny enough.

Not fit enough.

Not strong enough.

Not healthy enough.

Not patient enough.

Not caring enough.

The list of self-sabotage goes on.

For a long time, I ran on this same hamster wheel. I continued to sprint, getting nowhere except further from my center, finding more pieces of myself to pick apart, to "improve", to judge, until one day my curiosity asked me to explore what it would be like to jump off this never-ending track.

So I did.

And do you know what I found when I left the “I am not enough” framework behind?

I found that I am perfectly whole, as I am. That each piece of me, whether it is beautiful or hard or confusing or messy, intricately makes up the person I am in this very moment.

I found self-love, and that, my friend, is what leads to the change we seek.

As I am, in this moment, is exactly enough.

As you are, in this moment, is exactly enough.

How can our language about ourselves change when we start with this framework instead?

As we move into a new year, you might feel called to set a resolution for yourself. My invitation for you is to start with, “I am enough as I am,” and allow yourself to explore the pieces and parts of you that you haven't looked at in awhile with loving curiosity instead of shame, guilt, & doubt. This isn’t to be confused with complacency; instead, this is a gentle recognition of where we are in the moment, giving us the opportunity to nurture the pieces of ourselves that we haven’t looked at in awhile.

Nurturing our roots instead of tearing apart the plant, (I guess I had to tie nature in somewhere; I just can’t help myself.)

You are loved, exactly as you are. You are enough, exactly as you are.

-Becca